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Timing is a b*tch

Hi guys, happy monday. Wait, do we say that? Or do we say shit monday? Anyways.. I give up!

I need to get this off my chest. And I need to open up just a little to my readers, because I feel like that part I hold back just a little.

Timing is irrelevant when two people are meant for each other. It’s something that I was once told, and I believe truly deep down to my soul. I think we met during a time I was a mess, and I had so much still to figure out. At the time, I felt as if I had it all together but looking back to nearly a year ago I have realized that at the time that we meant it was just bad from the beginning. And I hate to use the word “bad” because it just seems too dramatic, but at this moment… It is the only word that seems to come to mind. But he was there for me, although he had no idea what I was going through at the time. I considered him a strong and powerful person in my life, and for those of you who know me personally you can see where I would have been very hesitant. I don’t allow people to come into my life very often, I fear they are temporary. It’s incredibly difficult for me to understand the word temporary. Why would you want to temporarily be actively involved in someone’s life and have the ultimately power and ability to disappear? It is not fair. And because it is not fair, I cannot control it. I cannot control when someone will voluntarily “choose” to leave my life or why they would ever want to.  I hate to put him on “the spot” but at this point, I don’t really care anymore. We’ve been through so much in a short amount of time and although some things were tough, confusing, or full of joy I have learned so much. I have learned so much more about the woman I want to be, the person I am destined to find and when I will find that person. You can’t rush things, especially if you want it to last forever. Two people can meet and timing can be completely wrong, I can test to that.

If you could only have met me now, how different it would really be. How differently our communication, emotions and chemistry would be, keeps me up at night thinking about more often than I want it to. If you could only see how much I have changed, maybe in ways you might not be happy with. But I don’t care. And that’s what is beautiful about the emptiness between us, I have grown tremendously without you in my life. Your absence will not stop me from growing each and everyday. You should really see me now, I think you would be proud. You were so blind, I loved you so very much. I wish you so much happiness and good luck in your future, I want nothing less than the best for you. It is what you deserve.

I have learned from all the mistakes I have made with you, but at the end of the day I just wish I would have made them with someone else.


xo Sar

PS. I hope she makes you happy :)


I’m a girl who goes on a lot of dates, not to brag or anything. And when I say dates, I don’t mean dinner & movies kinda-thing every time. It can be lots of different things, such as drinks, coffee, or order in and watch a movie together on the couch kinda-thing. What can I say, I love hanging out with guys! And I wish most of us admitted more of that. But anyways, let’s not get off track… Where was I? Ahhh..
So, we meet a guy and he’s GREAT. The night goes perfectly well, we kiss, we head back to his place and… Oops, we have sex. It happens right? I’ve heard from so many friends that this is the part that begins to freak them out. What happens now? Did I totally f*ck it up? — But is this all true, these questions we ask ourselves? Is he thinking the same things too? Us girls can practically drive ourselves insane. Although, we do an amazing job at hiding it… Well, most of the time…

I think the point I am trying to get at here is, why is it such a game? And the days after a good, or unexpected good date, we freak ourselves out! It is not worth it ladies. If he doesn’t text you, or call you.. MOVE ON. He clearly wasn’t worth it. And if he is, you will know. He will come around, you just have to be patient. So stop chasing him or doing ridiculous things just to grab his attention for 2.5 seconds because in the end you will only be hurting yourself.
As a woman, we feel so pressured to find our “Prince Charming”. But does he really exist? I think the problem we have is that we want every guy we meet to be that Prince Charming, rather than accepting the fact that he just might not be. Someone once told me, “You have to kiss a few toads before you meet Prince Charming.” Ladies, if you continue to search for Prince Charming in every single guy you meet I can promise you that it is going to be quite a long journey for you. Stop. STOP. JUST STOP. Who cares if you slept with him, who cares if he doesn’t ever call or text you back, and who cares what he continues to do after you’ve guys had your shindig. We are only human, and as humans we make mistakes. And a lot of them. So get use to it.

Ladies, continue to be your awesome f*cking self! You are attractive, intelligent, and witty. You will naturally attract the people you WANT to be around, rather than being attracted to the people who don’t necessarily want to be around you. It’s a sad story, but unfortunately it is true. Let’s all continue to self-motivate each other that there is someone better out there for YOU. Stop settling for these assholes, stop settling for the guys who continue to play mind games because they can’t “make up their mind on commitment” and stop settling for the guy you think fits your perfect picture of what a man should be. GET RID OF IT. Whether it takes 30 days, 2 weeks, 8 years or a decade, there is someone out there for you and the most amazing part about it is… They are looking for you too :)



Everything you need to know: STYLING YOUR GUY

* Drum Roll Please *
Introducing my first official blog post on what else — Men’s Fashion!

What’s better than a tall, handsome, and well-groomed man? Let me give you a hint, a well dressed man! As a woman, I definitely enjoy meeting a man who is very well dressed. It is actually quite impressive, to be honest. But for you ladies out there who are looking to whip your man into shape with his style choices, this guide is for you! And for all you guys out there who need a quick 101 class on “men’s fashion” you better jot down some notes and pay attention.

I have put together a style board, based on some of my favorite men’s fashion items and ANY GUY can pull this look off. And if you think you can’t, you’re wrong! Let’s get started :)

Lets begin with the plaid shirt. This is such a staple item in your fall fashion because it is effortless, but in trend. You can pair it with a plain grey, black, or white t-shirt underneath or wear it buttoned up. It is so easy, how can you NOT have this in your closet!

Of course, I paired the plaid shirt with a forest green military jacket. Right now, fashion has taken a turn for the military! Forest green, camo print, and combat boots are currently in trend with both men and women. The dynamic mesh of colors works perfectly together, so no need to worry about matching guys! That is not the lesson here. The patterns, textures, and colors are all in tune with each other, so it works! Easy peasy, lemon squeezy.

A pair of distressed brown colored boots are perfect to pull this look all together. The boots can be worn zipped up, or down. Depending on what look you are going for. Rolling up your pant legs a layer or two help to make the look more casual or straight legged with your pant legs inside the boots. Either way, these distressed style boots help pull this fall look all together.

Now, accessories! There is so many colors, patterns and textures in this look so don’t go overboard with the accessories. Keep it classic with a pair of Ray Ban sunglasses, or your favorite pair of dark classic sunglasses and accessorize your wrist with a watch. The watch is a staple, and classic piece to dress up your fall season outfit this year! My favorite piece from Invaluable.com is this Rolex watch! The beautiful colors of navy blue, gold and silver is very classic and goes with nearly every color or outfit you can put together. Check out invaluable.com to see their amazing line of men’s watches that they carry and an unbeatable price! Fall season is here & alive, get yourself a classic piece! They have so many different styles, colors, and brands to choose from.. There is definitely something out there for you.

Yay! I am so happy to share with you all my FIRST style board & first official blog on men’s fashion. Hope you all enjoyed it!!
And a big shoutout to all the awesome men who helped me, and inspired this look. I owe you big time :)

Any questions, comments, or just simply word of encouragement?
Email me: thewanderforest@gmail.com

yours truly,

xo Sarah


7 ways to win her heart!

Oh, the heart. Such a powerful organ in our body. Without it, we wouldn’t be alive. It beats for us, but it can also beat for another human being. I am one of those girls who gush over cute little text messages in the morning or before bed and what girl doesn’t love to get sweet comments on her Instagram selfie??? Am I right ladies?

But that only scrapes the surface of the top 10 ways to win a girl’s heart over! It takes much, MUCH more than that guys… C’mon.
Let’s get into it :)
(In no particular order)

1. Good listener with good memory
I love a guy who remembers cute, dorky, or weird things about me. Maybe something I only mentioned to him once, and he brings it up nonchalantly in a conversation with me, it will definitely make me blush just a bit. I think it’s quite a turn on when a guy will take something I said, tuck it back into his brain as a side mental note, but always remember it. It shows that you do care about me because you’re willing to listen to the things I say about myself and most importantly to remember these things.

2. Not your “typical date”
When we think of a date we usually think of, dinner, followed by a few drinks, maybe a movie, and then call it a night. But how many times can that really go on- and on – and on? You see my drift here?
I would love a guy to switch it up, keep it fresh and exciting every single time we hang out. Don’t get me wrong, I love the nights where we stay in cuddled up on the couch with a bag of popcorn and a great movie, what I am talking about it “date night.” Take me to a museum, take me to a play or a musical, take me a funky hole in the wall restaurant we BOTH have never tried. It’s dates like THAT will keep me interested :)

3. Surprises
Let’s face it, I’m a girl. So of course, it is practically a given I love surprises just as much as the next girl. Nothing super extravagant, but little things just to express how much I mean to you. Bring me chocolate at work when you know I’m having a tough day, or surprise me with a big bowl of soup when I’m feeling under the weather. You do that, and I think my heart might just pitter-patter for you!

4. Express
Although us girls like to pretend we know exactly what you are thinking, and feeling at any given moment.. Truth is, we don’t. I think we assume more than we really know. So, when a guy is pretty confident in the way he feels and can express it… That is a huge plus! I want to know how you feel, maybe not just about me in general but about everything. I can’t read your mind, although I would love to have that super power. Don’t be afraid to say how you feel because chances are, she feels the same way too. Too often, we wait for guys to make the first initial move on the love boat to emotion-land, and that is where we tend to go wrong sometimes. Just tell us how you feel, don’t leave us guessing.

5. Beauty & brains
Have you ever met a cute guy with a perfect smile, bangin’ body, and dressed like he was straight out of a calvin klein magazine? What could possibly be wrong with him, right? Then you come to find out he is a complete idiot. I know I have definitely experienced this. It’s such a bummer and can definitely be quite disappointing. BUT…. A guy with brains is a major turn on! I’m not expecting every guy to be Einstein, but it would be nice to have a complex conversation with someone who is well educated and smart. Keeps the spark in our interest and we can learn a thing or two from you. As a woman, we want a man who can continue to help us grow and vice versa.

6. Please & Thank you’s go a long way
A lot of guys can be total dicks sometimes, sorry guys… But you can be. But a man with manners, is sexy. You’d be surprised how much a simple “Please” and “Thank you” can go. Your mama taught you better than that.

7. Like the Spice Girls once said, “If you wanna be my lova, you gotta get with my friends.”
I admire a guy who finds it just as important to get to know my friends, as much as he gets to know more about me. Our friends are our biggest support system. Our friends are here BEFORE any guy, and if you’re lucky enough, they will be there for you AFTER he has already gone by. A guy who makes it an effort to get to know my friends on a personal level, definitely has a place in my heart.

So that completes the list of the top 7 ways to win a girl’s heart. Of course, it was in no particular order but you guys better start taking notes :)

Goodnight xoxo


Top 10 Things Guys Do That Annoy Me

Hi readers!

If you’re like me, then I know you have said to yourself “God, I hate when he does that” or “He is really annoying me right now.” Come on ladies, I know I can’t be the only one here. And isn’t it funny that although the men in our lives do the most annoying possible things to us, we still seem to find them attractive, uberly cute and the most perfect human being we’ve ever seen. Almost as if no matter what they do, or say we will not allow ourselves to judge them based on those things. But, they sure do get under our skin and annoy the HECK out of us. I guess that’s what they call love, right?

But scratch the love part, we aren’t focusing on that today.
What we are focusing on is the 10 most annoying things a guy can do to either — A. Piss me off
B. Turn me off
C. Both A & B

Let’s get to the list! And before I even begin to start with this wonderful, creative and fun list, I want to point out that I am not bashing ANY GUY WHATSOEVER. So, before we start pointing fingers I want to make sure I cover my ground and save my ass. With that being said, let’s get started :)

1. If I text you a long message and you reply back “Ok” or “Oh”… There’s a problem.
2. You act one way through text messages, Twitter, Instagram, Facebook etc.. But in person, you are completely different.
Example: “You’re so beautiful, I can’t wait to see you so I can kiss and hold you.” And then in person, none of that happens.
3. Liars. Enough said there.
4. If you like me, tell me. If you don’t like me, tell me.
You’d be surprised how much girls would be willing to keep a friendship, even if you don’t like them in that sorta way. Honesty is key here, and that is why we hate #3. LOL
5. Cocky < Confident
We get it, you are a man. But there is a huge difference between being a confident person, and being a straight up cocky person.
6. Manners. Please and Thank you’s go a long way. We know that your mama taught you better than that.
7. Respect. I’m taking it back to kindergarten, “Treat others how you want to be treated.”
8. Girls love to feel safe, and secure. But some guys take that a little to the extreme… Don’t be obsessive or controlling. We have a dad for that part, and that position has been filled.
9. “Send me a pic.” Ok– seriously, this needs to be stopped.
10. Don’t bash your friends or family. If you can say nasty and hurtful things about your family and closest friends, I could only imagine the things you say about me behind my back. Don’t be fake.

Ok guys, so there it is! The top 10 things a guy can do to annoy me (in no particular order) I’m sure the list could go on, and on… But I wanted to keep the list pretty short today LOL.

Have a great night guys,

Til next time
xo Sarah

My brain has no heart. And my heart has no brain.

Your brain whispers, “You’ll be fine.”
And your heart whispers, “Don’t lie.”


It’s a constant battle between your brain and your heart. Aren’t we suppose to be on the same team?? Yet, they tell us two different things. Different opinions on all our life choices. Love, friends, career, and even family members sometimes! Should this really be a battle?
I’ve contemplated this issue in my head over and over again. I can practically drive myself insane in my own head. I think we all think about the same things, regardless of who we are, our personal preferences, or sexual orientation… WE ARE ALL HUMANS! That’s the wonderful, yet scary thing about love, it is not prejudice.

I am more infatuated with the mind games. And you ALL know exactly what I’m talking about. All those flirty emoji filled text messages, fav tweets and “liked” Instagram photos. No matter how we word it, or how we see it… It is all a form of some sort of mind game. My question is, why? Why do we put ourselves through that. Yes, granted.. As a woman, we need to play a little hard to get. If the challenge becomes too easy, what’s the point of trying right? My mama always told me “A girl worth kissing, shouldn’t be easily kissed.” And I have held that dear to my heart when it comes to a guy I am interested in. Let him take you on a date, enjoy a nice dinner, a movie, or whatever he has planned for you… But what I’ve learned is no matter how great of a girl you could possibly be, you’ll never be good enough for a man who isn’t ready. And that’s where we tend to get caught up and tangled in our emotions. We tend to fall for the ones who aren’t interested in us, and refuse the ones who are. You’ll end up disappointing yourself if you continue to grow up thinking everyone has the same heart as you do. But if you do find someone good enough for you, please hold on to them. And in return, be the best possible person you can be for him/ or her.
As far as I know, the only person I can control is myself. It has taken me a long time to realize that, but better late than never right? I’m focusing on being a good, humble person. Beauty on the inside, shines bright. People tend to notice those things, I promise… Remember that. Give this world good energy, there is enough bad people in this world.
Fill yourself with happiness, fun, laughter, love, friends, friendly strangers and most importantly is family. That’s my little piece of advice to you kids, but please remember… I’m learning too :)

Good things come for those who wait.

Til we meet again
xo Sarah

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