I’m a girl who goes on a lot of dates, not to brag or anything. And when I say dates, I don’t mean dinner & movies kinda-thing every time. It can be lots of different things, such as drinks, coffee, or order in and watch a movie together on the couch kinda-thing. What can I say, I love hanging out with guys! And I wish most of us admitted more of that. But anyways, let’s not get off track… Where was I? Ahhh..
So, we meet a guy and he’s GREAT. The night goes perfectly well, we kiss, we head back to his place and… Oops, we have sex. It happens right? I’ve heard from so many friends that this is the part that begins to freak them out. What happens now? Did I totally f*ck it up? — But is this all true, these questions we ask ourselves? Is he thinking the same things too? Us girls can practically drive ourselves insane. Although, we do an amazing job at hiding it… Well, most of the time…
I think the point I am trying to get at here is, why is it such a game? And the days after a good, or unexpected good date, we freak ourselves out! It is not worth it ladies. If he doesn’t text you, or call you.. MOVE ON. He clearly wasn’t worth it. And if he is, you will know. He will come around, you just have to be patient. So stop chasing him or doing ridiculous things just to grab his attention for 2.5 seconds because in the end you will only be hurting yourself.
As a woman, we feel so pressured to find our “Prince Charming”. But does he really exist? I think the problem we have is that we want every guy we meet to be that Prince Charming, rather than accepting the fact that he just might not be. Someone once told me, “You have to kiss a few toads before you meet Prince Charming.” Ladies, if you continue to search for Prince Charming in every single guy you meet I can promise you that it is going to be quite a long journey for you. Stop. STOP. JUST STOP. Who cares if you slept with him, who cares if he doesn’t ever call or text you back, and who cares what he continues to do after you’ve guys had your shindig. We are only human, and as humans we make mistakes. And a lot of them. So get use to it.
Ladies, continue to be your awesome f*cking self! You are attractive, intelligent, and witty. You will naturally attract the people you WANT to be around, rather than being attracted to the people who don’t necessarily want to be around you. It’s a sad story, but unfortunately it is true. Let’s all continue to self-motivate each other that there is someone better out there for YOU. Stop settling for these assholes, stop settling for the guys who continue to play mind games because they can’t “make up their mind on commitment” and stop settling for the guy you think fits your perfect picture of what a man should be. GET RID OF IT. Whether it takes 30 days, 2 weeks, 8 years or a decade, there is someone out there for you and the most amazing part about it is… They are looking for you too :)