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Timing is a b*tch

Hi guys, happy monday. Wait, do we say that? Or do we say shit monday? Anyways.. I give up!

I need to get this off my chest. And I need to open up just a little to my readers, because I feel like that part I hold back just a little.

Timing is irrelevant when two people are meant for each other. It’s something that I was once told, and I believe truly deep down to my soul. I think we met during a time I was a mess, and I had so much still to figure out. At the time, I felt as if I had it all together but looking back to nearly a year ago I have realized that at the time that we meant it was just bad from the beginning. And I hate to use the word “bad” because it just seems too dramatic, but at this moment… It is the only word that seems to come to mind. But he was there for me, although he had no idea what I was going through at the time. I considered him a strong and powerful person in my life, and for those of you who know me personally you can see where I would have been very hesitant. I don’t allow people to come into my life very often, I fear they are temporary. It’s incredibly difficult for me to understand the word temporary. Why would you want to temporarily be actively involved in someone’s life and have the ultimately power and ability to disappear? It is not fair. And because it is not fair, I cannot control it. I cannot control when someone will voluntarily “choose” to leave my life or why they would ever want to.  I hate to put him on “the spot” but at this point, I don’t really care anymore. We’ve been through so much in a short amount of time and although some things were tough, confusing, or full of joy I have learned so much. I have learned so much more about the woman I want to be, the person I am destined to find and when I will find that person. You can’t rush things, especially if you want it to last forever. Two people can meet and timing can be completely wrong, I can test to that.

If you could only have met me now, how different it would really be. How differently our communication, emotions and chemistry would be, keeps me up at night thinking about more often than I want it to. If you could only see how much I have changed, maybe in ways you might not be happy with. But I don’t care. And that’s what is beautiful about the emptiness between us, I have grown tremendously without you in my life. Your absence will not stop me from growing each and everyday. You should really see me now, I think you would be proud. You were so blind, I loved you so very much. I wish you so much happiness and good luck in your future, I want nothing less than the best for you. It is what you deserve.

I have learned from all the mistakes I have made with you, but at the end of the day I just wish I would have made them with someone else.

 

xo Sar

PS. I hope she makes you happy :)

7 ways to win her heart!

Oh, the heart. Such a powerful organ in our body. Without it, we wouldn’t be alive. It beats for us, but it can also beat for another human being. I am one of those girls who gush over cute little text messages in the morning or before bed and what girl doesn’t love to get sweet comments on her Instagram selfie??? Am I right ladies?

But that only scrapes the surface of the top 10 ways to win a girl’s heart over! It takes much, MUCH more than that guys… C’mon.
Let’s get into it :)
(In no particular order)

1. Good listener with good memory
I love a guy who remembers cute, dorky, or weird things about me. Maybe something I only mentioned to him once, and he brings it up nonchalantly in a conversation with me, it will definitely make me blush just a bit. I think it’s quite a turn on when a guy will take something I said, tuck it back into his brain as a side mental note, but always remember it. It shows that you do care about me because you’re willing to listen to the things I say about myself and most importantly to remember these things.

2. Not your “typical date”
When we think of a date we usually think of, dinner, followed by a few drinks, maybe a movie, and then call it a night. But how many times can that really go on- and on – and on? You see my drift here?
I would love a guy to switch it up, keep it fresh and exciting every single time we hang out. Don’t get me wrong, I love the nights where we stay in cuddled up on the couch with a bag of popcorn and a great movie, what I am talking about it “date night.” Take me to a museum, take me to a play or a musical, take me a funky hole in the wall restaurant we BOTH have never tried. It’s dates like THAT will keep me interested :)

3. Surprises
Let’s face it, I’m a girl. So of course, it is practically a given I love surprises just as much as the next girl. Nothing super extravagant, but little things just to express how much I mean to you. Bring me chocolate at work when you know I’m having a tough day, or surprise me with a big bowl of soup when I’m feeling under the weather. You do that, and I think my heart might just pitter-patter for you!

4. Express
Although us girls like to pretend we know exactly what you are thinking, and feeling at any given moment.. Truth is, we don’t. I think we assume more than we really know. So, when a guy is pretty confident in the way he feels and can express it… That is a huge plus! I want to know how you feel, maybe not just about me in general but about everything. I can’t read your mind, although I would love to have that super power. Don’t be afraid to say how you feel because chances are, she feels the same way too. Too often, we wait for guys to make the first initial move on the love boat to emotion-land, and that is where we tend to go wrong sometimes. Just tell us how you feel, don’t leave us guessing.

5. Beauty & brains
Have you ever met a cute guy with a perfect smile, bangin’ body, and dressed like he was straight out of a calvin klein magazine? What could possibly be wrong with him, right? Then you come to find out he is a complete idiot. I know I have definitely experienced this. It’s such a bummer and can definitely be quite disappointing. BUT…. A guy with brains is a major turn on! I’m not expecting every guy to be Einstein, but it would be nice to have a complex conversation with someone who is well educated and smart. Keeps the spark in our interest and we can learn a thing or two from you. As a woman, we want a man who can continue to help us grow and vice versa.

6. Please & Thank you’s go a long way
A lot of guys can be total dicks sometimes, sorry guys… But you can be. But a man with manners, is sexy. You’d be surprised how much a simple “Please” and “Thank you” can go. Your mama taught you better than that.

7. Like the Spice Girls once said, “If you wanna be my lova, you gotta get with my friends.”
I admire a guy who finds it just as important to get to know my friends, as much as he gets to know more about me. Our friends are our biggest support system. Our friends are here BEFORE any guy, and if you’re lucky enough, they will be there for you AFTER he has already gone by. A guy who makes it an effort to get to know my friends on a personal level, definitely has a place in my heart.

So that completes the list of the top 7 ways to win a girl’s heart. Of course, it was in no particular order but you guys better start taking notes :)

Goodnight xoxo

Sar

Top 10 Things Guys Do That Annoy Me

Hi readers!

If you’re like me, then I know you have said to yourself “God, I hate when he does that” or “He is really annoying me right now.” Come on ladies, I know I can’t be the only one here. And isn’t it funny that although the men in our lives do the most annoying possible things to us, we still seem to find them attractive, uberly cute and the most perfect human being we’ve ever seen. Almost as if no matter what they do, or say we will not allow ourselves to judge them based on those things. But, they sure do get under our skin and annoy the HECK out of us. I guess that’s what they call love, right?

But scratch the love part, we aren’t focusing on that today.
What we are focusing on is the 10 most annoying things a guy can do to either — A. Piss me off
B. Turn me off
C. Both A & B

Let’s get to the list! And before I even begin to start with this wonderful, creative and fun list, I want to point out that I am not bashing ANY GUY WHATSOEVER. So, before we start pointing fingers I want to make sure I cover my ground and save my ass. With that being said, let’s get started :)

1. If I text you a long message and you reply back “Ok” or “Oh”… There’s a problem.
2. You act one way through text messages, Twitter, Instagram, Facebook etc.. But in person, you are completely different.
Example: “You’re so beautiful, I can’t wait to see you so I can kiss and hold you.” And then in person, none of that happens.
3. Liars. Enough said there.
4. If you like me, tell me. If you don’t like me, tell me.
You’d be surprised how much girls would be willing to keep a friendship, even if you don’t like them in that sorta way. Honesty is key here, and that is why we hate #3. LOL
5. Cocky < Confident
We get it, you are a man. But there is a huge difference between being a confident person, and being a straight up cocky person.
6. Manners. Please and Thank you’s go a long way. We know that your mama taught you better than that.
7. Respect. I’m taking it back to kindergarten, “Treat others how you want to be treated.”
8. Girls love to feel safe, and secure. But some guys take that a little to the extreme… Don’t be obsessive or controlling. We have a dad for that part, and that position has been filled.
9. “Send me a pic.” Ok– seriously, this needs to be stopped.
10. Don’t bash your friends or family. If you can say nasty and hurtful things about your family and closest friends, I could only imagine the things you say about me behind my back. Don’t be fake.

Ok guys, so there it is! The top 10 things a guy can do to annoy me (in no particular order) I’m sure the list could go on, and on… But I wanted to keep the list pretty short today LOL.

Have a great night guys,

Til next time
xo Sarah

Inside the mind of a woman

Hello lovies!

Okay, so lately I’ve been hearing so much complaining from all the men in my life about how difficult and confusing the mind of a woman is. That got me to thinking, are we really as confusing as men make us out to be? Are women truly that difficult to understand and please? Am I considered to be one of these “typical women” who can’t be figured out by a man because I’m from venus? So here is what I came up with…

I believe that every woman on this planet is uniquely made. We are NOT all alike, and if you believe that every woman is exactly the same.. You have other issues, my friend. But that doesn’t ignore the fact that I do strongly believe that many women share common similarities involving our actions, words, or sensitivity. All these characteristics may vary, but I will take you to the inside of the mind of a woman. It’s a scary place… You have been warned.

Every guy seems to think that all girls are all about the bigger, the better! Whether it’s a car, a ring, or a house. Don’t get me wrong here, we love a big car, big ring, and a big beautiful house… But what guys don’t seem to understand is that sometimes the simple, teeny-tiny things that you do for us, makes up for all the other big things that we could care less about. Ever heard the saying, “It’s the thought that lionroarsmall_grandecounts” well… It is true! A woman would rather you put a lot of thought into a special gift, than walk into a jewelry store and pick out a piece that’s the largest and most expensive.  Of course, I can’t speak for ALL women.. but I’m pretty sure I can speak for most of us (at least the ones with our heads screwed on right!).

I can’t emphasize enough on how truly important it is for a man to show his affection towards a woman he truly loves and cares about. Of course, this works vice versa as well because I know how important it is for a man to receive affection from his woman. This should be a key component in any relationship, but in this new generation of technology advancements and the ability to show affection in different ways because it’s not just physical now. Not exactly sure what I’m talking about? Think about it… Every woman loves to be mentioned in his Facebook status, his tweet, even his Instagram for #WCW (woman crush Wednesday). Social networking has really improved the ability for someone to show affection, who may not be so comfortable showing it physically. And guys, take notes here. Every woman loves this. No woman will admit this, but we love when you show us off and make us feel as if we are your “entire world” it makes us feel good about ourselves. Treat your woman like a queen, and she will treat you like a king.

Til next time,

xo Sarah